Letters for September  2000

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(I'm glad someone is thinking about the older folks...) some of us do 10 times better than those younger. WE do it together or watch each other and then go for the whole nine yards at least 4 times a week. we're 60&63 respectively. I wont go into what we were like when we were younger

Ed: Oh, cum'on! Tell us what you were like when you were younger! But you're right. Once we get older sex can become even more fun!



i,m 16 and enjoy wanking.i,m uncut.Please explain the "pop" .My bell end is vey big,shall i get it all the way out?(i wank once a day)

Ed: Not quite sure what you are asking, but if you mean that your forskin is tight and the head of your pecker stays covered when erect then it's pretty much a choice you make as to what feels best. First you must understand what forskin is and it's purpose.
Forskin serves the same purpose as do eyelids and the inside of lips, the skin being of the same type. It keeps the head of the penis protected, moist and sanitized.
If you wish to have the head of your penis exposed during masturbation, you will have to practise pulling the forskin back while its soft and then masturbating with the skin pulled back over the head as it gets hard. As this will be very uncomfortable at first you may require a lubricant.
Presently your penis is in it's natural state, forcing the skin back is not necessary, unless it bugs you too much the way it is now, in which case ask your father and/or grandfather or talk to a doctor. A doctor may recommend surgical removal of the forskin (circumcision). This is not the way to go unless you are absolutely sure - as there is no going back once surgery happens.
Rather, if you feel you must have your knob exposed, practise pulling the foreskin back during your wanking sessions ---- and whats this? 16 years old and wanking only once a day? If you wish to get that forskin pulled back and feel comfortable with it, you must do it more often. Keep in mind that millions of men since time began have a penis just like yours and it does not matter whether or not the skin goes back - the important thing to mother nature is that the sperm cums out!



I am 16 years old and male. I think that your letters page is very informative. I have a question.
My friend (male 15) and I mastubate together while we watch hardcore xxx videos at his house every friday night. We watch men and women having sex and rub ourselves until we come. Then we just sit around and watch movies or play video games. I'm worried about being gay. We do not touch each other nor act in any girlish or gay manner. Are we gay?


Ed: Can't really say. Depends on what the word 'gay' means. To an older person such as myself the word "gay" can best be summed up by saying that, Gay means that one is 'publically open' and declares their sexual preference to everyone.
Most men did similar things as youngsters. It usually was over the same sort of thing. Pictures from girly magazines were the most common mastubation material and frequently guys would mastubate together but not each other. These pix were of women only and rarely would one see 'hardcore xxx'
Most guys grew up and got married and would not be classified as 'gay'.
Nowadays all homosexual behaviour is called gay. Rubbing your penis in front of another guy is definately homosexual behaviour, but it is common and normal and has no effect on whether or not you will have a happy heterosexual life.
You will know if you are homosexual if you are only thinking about a man when you come. If you are thinking about both then you are heading into bi-sexuality. As your videos are of both sexes it depends on who you are identifying with in the video.
Unless you are morally/socially concerned about it, it doesn't matter at all what you are sexually. The whole problem of which sexual preference you follow becomes less of an issue as the western world accepts different lifestyles.
Follow your preference. Enjoy yourself as you feel best. If, on the other hand, you wish to direct your sexual preference into a fully functional heterosexual future, then jerk off alone to women-only videos and find a girlfriend to take out on a Saturday night.



Does anyone know who wrote "For All those born before 1945"? Or how old it is? Thanks, Kim

Ed: It was submitted by a reader, but I have seen it before so I guess it's one of those anonymous emails that everyone keeps sending back and forth. It is quite true tho'.




Hank, after contacting Jim Deerboy he suggests I send something for your page. Are zipped jpg's OK?

Hank: .jpg 's are the best and easiest format for using on the Internet. Zipped is not necessary nor desired. Thanks for all submissions.



Im 57 my wife is 56 we have been marred 37 years. I have masturbated sense age 15 i still do once in while. my wife has a low sex drive but a very under standing level. she knows i need more sex than she might she well jack-me-off 2-3 a week and do it better than i could ever do.and she enjoys doing it. she has help me jackoff sence we were about 21 .i have known her sence we were 15 and 14 in high school. Ijust would not know what to do without her, thanks for letting me share this with you---ron

Ed: Thank you for sharing this with us. Its good to hear that after all these years you both enjoy wanking.



Could you please confirmed me if you are an active site with news, pics, etc. still upgrading. I use to visit your site a couple years ago but stop. I would like to join again if you are active.
Thanks
G

Ed:We are very much active and will be happy to have you rejoin. Wankers Over 50 restricted areas update every month. The submissions from members are posted during the first week of every month.. Each month there are pix, stories and personal ads. Members also have free access to the Oldsexuals message board and the Diddlers website. The original content is still there as well. The entire contents of the website is now over 65 mb of pix etc.
Letters to the Editor has updates during the middle of every month and occasional updates elsewhere on the website at any time.



I'm a retired 69 yr old male, my first experiance was at the age of 15 and was quite by accident, however i enjoyed it so much the next day I had another go, although this time it wasn't as good as I knew what to expect. then the guilt feeling set in, all the storeys that I'd heard came back to haunt me, so although the desire was there I resisted. For days I would think about it and only rarely did I succomb.I read of males who think nothing of masturbating two/three times a day, My limit is once a week or less and on numerous occasions I have wondered if the tales I'd heard as a young man and my reluctance to engage in this most delightful practice had any bearing on my frequency. I am married and although my sex life was average it never exceeded more than once a week also it never crossed over to any practice other than the missionary position. My wife, on reaching menopause used this as an excuse not to engage in sex anymore, although she will mastubate me if I ask her, albeit reluctantly, so for the past few years it's been the four fingered widow, But recently I purchased a small viberator and I've been having orgasms the likes of which I havn't experiance in years and since it's purchase my wife seems less reluctent to accomadate me, as she dosn't have to handle that horrible thing as much.

Ed: It is certain that your early experiences play a big part of how you conduct the rest of your sexual life. You and your wife are with the majority of Americans brought up under a social condition of sexual fear. You were made to believe that mastubation was a sin and sex must not be enjoyed. Many women were taught to merely tolerate a man's needs and should never let on that they enjoy it too. Unfortunately many middleaged and older people have too many hangups to enjoy sex to it's fullest and because it never was much fun, they stop doing it altogether.
Today it's not much better. The children of today are being brought up with even more fear of sexual contact. Added to the burden of religious and social issues is now the fear of abuse or AIDS or possibly getting sued for some sexual misconduct.
You've cum up with the right answer, find a method that brings you a few moments of sexual joy and your day will be happier. Try it more often.



Dear Hank,
I am 56yrs. old and usually do it at least once a day.I have been married 35yrs.and my wife knows of it. I have diabetic neuropothy and don't get an erection without constant stimulation. When I climax nothing comes out but I still get that feeling.I can't imagine ever not being able to have that feeling, as I am almost addicted to it.
I have done it in shopping mall parking lots, Work restrooms, vehicles, road side rest stops, and hetro-mutually in drive-in theaters.
When I was dating my wife,I would do it when I got home,just thinking about what we had just done mutually. Luckily, My wife never minded because she knows that my sex drive is much higher than hers and we have no secrets.
Irish

Hank:I'm sure almost all men are addicted to 'that feeling'. If they were not breeding would have never happened and life would not have taken place on our planet. I'm sure that every form of life gets a kick out of breeding - in fact I'm so wierd as to venture that even plants 'get off' when they pop their pollen!




Hank:I am 57 years old and married for 35 years. Since the kids grew up and my wife and I stopped the usual sex, I was wanking more often away from home - in the office, at restrooms, in the car etc. I confessed to my wife about it and to my surprise (and delight) she told me that she too plays with herself sometimes and now we are wanking together and it's like a whole new relationship.
Geo.

Hank: Many wives/spouses can feel 'left out' when they acknowledge that their husbands wank and often it is not talked about between couples. Couples that have no secrets about how they really enjoy sex are more at ease with each other and will find their relationships more enjoyable.
However for many couples their fantasies do not include each other, but rather an imaginary partner even while having sex with each other. These type of relationships drift apart (sexually). She resorts to diddling herself and he to wanking alone.
If a couple can accept each others diddling/wanking without feeling 'left out' then they will have a lasting and more comfortable relationship.




Hank, I was wondering if you can help me. I am a women, 37 married to a man who just turned 44. We have 2 children ages 14 and 16. We are an average happy, stable family with no real problems.
Except in bed. For the last 3 years we have not have sex. He shows no interest in sex at all. After reading the letters on your site I am not so sure he has stopped having sex - just stopped with me. How can I find out if he still can do it? What can I do to make him want to do it with me. I may be 35 but I still have a pretty good figure and always try to look attractive when he's home. He does not come to bed until I'm sleeping or goes to bed and is asleep before me. Our bodies never touch in bed anymore. I am very lonely although I have good friends and the children and in every other way he is a wonderful man.
Katie
Please answer this only in the site do not write back to my email address.

Hank: (We never write back). Katie, I don't know how to answer this one. It's a common situation and not easy to advise. But here's a couple of suggestions: You could come right out and ask him. Pick the moment carefully and give him a way out of an immediate answer.
Plan a weekend together away from the kids. Your children may be the problem. He may be punishing you for the attention they get from you, he may be feeling left out. Now that the kids are older they are demanding a separate life from him (growing up) he's not needed for every decision. This does affect men in different ways - in this case it may be the reason for him not wanting you. It's not really you - it's his loss of control and the sinking feeling of passing from a strong father/husband figure into just the guy who takes out the garbage and pays for new runners. As a man becomes older and his children become teenagers, his sexual performance can become affected - it's both natural but preventable. You both need to talk about it without pointing a finger.
Good Luck!



I am 44, cut and thick, I've wanked at least 10 times a week for over 30 years. This last month I've been wanking to orgasm 3 times a day and sometimes more. I just cannot stop. What should I do?

Ed: Try to increase it to 5 times a day.



Is sex all you old men ever think about???

Ed: yep!
Hank: yep!



When I was 11 yr old a catholic priest first show me about sex and I now want to have sex with a priest I am 66.

Ed: Go to confession and tell the priest. He may help you out.



I wrote you my confession about 3 months ago but you did not print it yet. will you?

Ed: Your confession was posted but because of its sexually explicit words and detailed description it is in the members only area of this website.
That goes for all letters that we deem to be a bit too much for public acceptance. Especially the ones dealing with childhood experiences. If you want to see it in Letters to the Editor, then tone it down a bit or we post it in 'True Confessions'.



I love your website and I honestly think that you are doing us older men a big service by letting us know that we are not alone when we wank. I am 57 and looking forward to many more years of guilt-free wanking.

Ed: Thanks for saying so and keep on wanking!



I am so glad that I found you, I am uncircumsized and jerk off twice a week. I am 73.

Ed: I glad you found us too and thanks for telling us that, but try to do it 3 times a week.





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