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Emails received during January 2001 i have a few questions but before that i would like to tell you that i am one of the worlds most dedicated wankers in the world. i have wanked since 12 and am now working every hour without fail i make a trip to the toilet for a wank. i then return home and have a wank before my wife gets in. have tea and go to the toilet for a wank and a piss. i then go on the internt on your site and scroll about wanking .while my wife is in the other room .i then go to bed and have a wank before my wife comes up.but now to the questions i have no credit card and do not want to get one just for the purpose of this site for that would seem a bit fishy to wife is there anyway of getting to b a member without a credit card . the next question is i wank the regular everyday as i said and i always wank the same way can you give me any some exciting forms of wanking plz help im afraid to say it but wanking is getting boring plz help and give me someone ways to wank. bye Ed: You certainly are a wanker! You seem quite active and I'll guess you are in your twenties to thirties.The only thing I can suggest to 'ease' your boredom is to change your routine. Let your wife do the wanking - by avoiding her participation you are heading for seperation. Get her in the groove before it's too late. If it is already too late then try these ways: Take a break from wanking by keeping yourself busy with friends (or wife). Wank with your other hand or try reaching orgasm without using your hand. Break up the routine you are in and if wifely activities are impossible find a friend to wank with. We are joining up with service in Canada where you can send cash for anonymous memberships. It should be possible soon. John at the oldmen's home has been doing it for a while and everything is working out great for him. Keep watching the join-up page for this option.  Hello just joined Wankers. Really enjoy the site. just turned 51 a few days ago and enjoy wanking each night,and most mornings in the shower. I also use a second stage dick and ball pump while reading some to the letters form fellow members. Would like to hear from fellow Wankers Ed: Welcum aboard - your ad will be posted in the restricted area within the next couple of days. Lets hear more about that second stage dick and ball pump. Hi Guys, Thank you for a wonderful site which I have only just discovered. Have been in a near constant state of excitement since I found it. I am just a pup at 48 but am looking forward to 50 when I can feel a real member, as it were. I'm 6 - 6.5" with a reasonable girth of 5" or so round and really like to fantasize about older men when I work out - so your site could have been made for me. Have already posted in the Hello column and got a reply - yo ho ho. Thanks again. Keep up the good work - I know I'll be keeping it up all the better for finding such congenial company. B Ed: Welcum to you too youngster! Lets see some photos. i was wondering if you could send my uncial a certificate for haveing the most wanks in the uk please send a email back to me to let me know if you would it for me. Hank: Hmmm? Well we have to have witnesses and pictorial proof of his wanking abilities and a description of how often etc. It'll be hard to beat old Charlie from Hampstead Heath. He has been wanking since he was a nipper and at 93 years old still wanks twice a day. Witnesses have said he can shoot 3 feet still! At a recent wanking contest at the Nags Head he beat 23 year old Alan Benson by doing it 4 times in 28 minutes! Hank; You are doing a great service and I enjoy it. I am 85 years old and JO every week and more often when I am horny. I live alone now that I am widowed; I wish I had a man to be with but can't seem to find any. I had 4 way by-pass surgery last March and I started wanking again in a month. It takes longer, but so what? I bought a penis pump from my Urologist and got Medicare payment for most of it. I love to see me old cock come to life again. My J/o life is my main entertainment that I have and I look forward to it. If any men want one, they should ask their Urologist or MD about it. I can give them several names of good products.You DON'T have to give up wanking just because it won't get hard any more. Get a good pump and enjoy the feeling again. I would be lost without my PC and wanking. It has added so much to my life; I am proud of myself once more and it keeps me young. I also exercise regularly by walking at least two miles a day; it only takes an hour and we have plenty of them to use the best way we can. Don Hank: Thanks for the letter Don and congrats on your wanking abilities. Keep it up! Let us know about those products and your reactions/affects etc. Also tell us how you approached your urologist on the subject. Many older men are quite shy on the subject and are afraid to ask their doctor - especially a longtime family doctor. I was wondering if you could tell me a bit more about your site. Thank you Jason Ed: Thand for asking Jason. Just keep reading all the previous letters and you'll get the idea. I am embarrassed to go to doctors for examination. I tend to get an erection if I have to strip down. I asked a doctor about it and he told me I was not alone. I am able to control it better now, but it is a concern. Is it normal for this to happen? Woud appreciate comments from other over 50 men. Thanks Ed: Erections are normal. You getting aroused by being nude while others are dressed is not unusual - thats what turns on exhibitionists. Let the doctor think what he may. He gets to look at dicks all day long and I'm sure he's seen it all if a nurse is there too she'll be thrilled and assume it's because of her. so don't worry. Next time take a peek and see if he responds with a bulge - it's all perfectly normal to man and nature. It's only in high school locker rooms where they'll laugh at you (the bastards!). Don't be concerned at all and be completely happy and proud that you get an erection at any time, there may come the day when you'll not find it easy to get hard at all and you'll look back at this a give a wry chuckle. (99% of men wank) The other 1% lie. To tell the truth, if there were better acceptance of wanking there would be way less unwanted pregnancies, aids, sexual abuse, etc. Sex for one generally results in the best orgasms. Having had a cancerous prostate removed, with resulting erections barely good enough for coitus, I feel it may be beneficial for me to report what works. After mutual pleasuring with my wife, the most reliable attaining of orgasm comes from my own hand giving the final exactly right friction, touching right spots and then maintaining the pulsation and fading of sensitivity for a good "orgasm". I use the quotes for without the musculature of the prostate and the ejaculation, which is largely prostatic fluid- the orgasm is not the same. Hardly any Surgeon bothers to tell you that, they say something like "Well at your age continuing sex is only 50-50anyhow"! Well 9yrs after the surgery, the frequency is usually about 2x a wk. The sensations leading up to the orgasm spellbinding, and I believe that with my hand controlling the final stages, the orgasm and resolution has become better the last year or so. Tried some Viagra, but its nearly a waste of money, as erection and orgasm are separate functions, and since menopause wife enjoys other sexual and other touching, actually not really caring for penetration as much. I am 76. I was not circumcised at birth. I adopted advice from a book by a Dr. Foote that suggested training the foreskin to remain retracted would result in better cleanliness and disease rejection. I achieved this in a week, and have been pleased with the result. Ever since I found out what was under that foreskin I have wanted to see that glans. Went back to covering it for several months in an experiment to see whether The "intacters" or "restorers" claims of greater sensitivty were true. The glans got moist and softer. The sensitivity change was that when my wife touched the glans I felt like saying ouch. In spite of a lot of washing urine that penetrated the glans an skin could not be rinsed away. I went back to wearing it bare. It really boils down to personal preference. My feeling exposed is cleaner, sensual response is good either way, if you have foreskin removed the areas formerly covered with skin are exposed and become more strongly stimulated. Though I can pull skin over the glans to masturbate, most of the time I get better pleasure out of going at it as if cut with right thumb working the corona and finger doing the underside with sliding motion. This is probably somewhat a matter of the exposure having the excess sensitivity under control, and those nerve endings do respond beautifully. 76 that's the spirit Hank: Hey 76, thanks for the great details in your description. As men get older they are worried about prostate problems and believe all is lost if they are diagnosed with it. It's very reassuring to hear from folks like yourself who have been thru it and can still enjoy a good wank. I am a white 79 yr. old 6' tall 230lb shaven head male. Currently in Rio de Janeiro. I enjoy wanking and in particular being wanked by a younger male preferably black and muscular. I speak Italian and some Portuguese. I think I would like to join your club but I am not too sure if it would serve my purpose since I travel a great deal between Europe Italy New York and Rio. M Ed: It may not suit you as there is not much to do with your preferences - mostly 'older men' in all their aged glory are on the inside. As long as you have access to the Internet we can be reached from anywhere. I am 56 years old. Uncut and have been masterbating for as long as I can remember. I have been fortunate to have been "hung" since I as a child. When I compared myself to my freinds and cousins during mutual masterbation periods I was alwas bigger then them. Today at erection I am 6". I do not know if that is average or not. To this day my cousins joke about their penis envy even though they haven't seen it since we were kids. For all I know they may have caught up with me. My problem now is lack of erection. I can still enjoy sex and masterbation but I do not get as hard as I use to. Sometimes I don't get hard at all. My doctor tried to tell me that it is all in my head. I think he's wrong and I have an appointment with another doctor to get a second opinion. I enjoy sex with my wife of 35 years, but she only wants to do it once a week. Then I have to do the initiating. She is still a terrific sex partner once you get her going. I feel guilty though as she does not feel me all the time as I am not as erect. I have suggested a dildo but she is too old fashion and won't try it. I wish she would be more open to experiment with masterbating but she is too embarrassed by it. I think she would enjoy it as I do. I usually masterbate once a week. My sexual fantasies use to worry me. I often think of other men's cocks and touching them. I guess I am reliving some of my childhood encounters. I use to worry that I may have homosexual tendencies. I realize now that I am just oversexed because I sure enjoy pussy! Would this be bi-sexual? My other fantasy is to watch my wife have sex with another man. Again I wonder does this make me a bi-sexual? or am I just sick! I just recently found your site and would like to join but worry about the credit card connection. I will keep watching to see if there are alternatives to joining. I would rather mail a money order. Hank: If your erection problems are 'in your head' as your doctor suggests then thats probably no different than if its 'not in your head' either way you are having a problem with getting a hard on. I would suggest that you try a cock ring ( buy a couple of different types - see Toys link at top of page) or/and a pump. If that fails to do the trick then try Viagra or a herbal alternative. Why would you worry about having 'homosexual tendencies'? or whether or not you are bi? It really doesn't matter what sexual preferences you have. Sexual man will have enjoyable sex with anything thats soft and warm and available. Religious concerns are what determines whether or not to label those preferences and it seems to me that we should follow our dicks wherever that takes us and to each his own. Stop worrying about which side of the fence you're on and explore youe sexuality without concern. There is only ONE rule to follow: Partners must be legally agreeable. (age/desire). Talk to your wife about it maybe she would like a change too. ( see up the page about snailmail joining.) Hank ; The PC has been down so I've not been able to write. The pump is great, at least I think so. When I was 67 (I'm now 70) I was dating a 37 year old for a short spell. She was happy with it as I was but we soon broke up. That is when I decided I need to do something so hence the pump. This pump was prescribed by a physician and is called Esteem. Sold by the Osbon Medical Systems. It takes time to get used to. I have two. One is a hand pump, the other is battery operated. I prefer the battery one because of arthritis. The Cock Rings come in different sizes. If some one decides to buy a pump I suggest getting an Easy Action ring applicator To put the Cock Rings on the cylinder. These rings are not cheap and I bought quite a few before I gave in to using the applicator. I've been able to increase the size a bit and get it as hard as a rock. The instructions say not to keep it hard for more than 30 minutes. I can get a lot done in that time. The reason for 30 minutes is of course blood clotting. I recommend it but they should talk to there Doctor first. The hand pumps sold at the sex shops look very similar to my hand pump but I have no idea how good they are. I hope this might help the ones thinking about a pump. Hank: Excellent! Thanks for sharing that. As we get older we all need to know this kind of feedback as erection problems do occur in some men. It's great to hear that there is a way to keep it going longer and how various methods work for different men. After removing the pump how long does the erection stay firm?
can you tell me is wanking bad for you thanks Ed: Only if you are caught doing it in public. I am a new member. Love the "GAL" section. Love the old gals. Bless their hearts. Need more of them. The older the better. Also like the guy photos. Bless their little, and big, hards. Is their a website that you or fellow members know of where I can catch more photos of mature, bare, female bodies? Sparky. Ed: funny you should ask as we are putting a link to a great newd website in February's members section update. It's called Mature Erotica. ( also visit our Diddlers Over 40 website - it's free to members ) Hi there, Think your site is excellent. Good to know there's so many young guys beating the meat out there. I'm 97 and still jacking off although it's a lot more difficult to raise a good boner nowadays. I usually have to resort to using motorcycle grease and an old copy of Razzle. And then my jizz barely makes it out of my japs eye. It just seeps out over my old wrinkled helmet. It don't turn my Vera on that much. Never mind, gone are the days when I could shoot an thick creamy arc for 3 feet across my bedroom. Anyhows, good luck and happy wanking! Ed: 97 eh? I bet you know old Charlie from Hampstead Heath. I'm the old guy who wrote about getting wanked off by his female college prof in '5l. You wondered about its role in my subsequent fantasy life. Legit question, and I will answer it, though not in the fashion you expect. You must understand I strongly disliked the imperious lady, and while I enjoyed the momentary physical release, I was at base resentful. Shortly afterwards, I was recalled as a vet of WW2 and a naval reservist from grad school, assigned to a base in a southern city. There, at 26, I was "picked up" by an attractive 50 y/o housewife from another state who visited on weekends when she accompanied a friend to a medical center for exams. With sons/daughters almost my age, married to an important citizen in her small town, she knew that her sexual experiences were, in fact, paltry. As she put it, "My husband just sticks it in, rolls off and goes to sleep." For several months, off and on (no pun intended), I saw this lady, until her friend had her operation and completed follow up care, thus eliminating the excuse for the trips to the big city. THAT experience is what provided many, many years of fond memories as I jacked off, recalling the mentoring of an eager, ripe female who reveled in dscovering the menu of sexual delights. It almost completely obliterated the impact of the incident at college which occured only months before. That quickly became just a simple memory bereft of any sexual stimulation. Ed: Thanks for telling us more. Your second experience with an older lady seems to have been a great one for you. I wonder if your previous one was just 'prep' for the second one and without the first would you have been as responsive to the second? Again thanks for the follow up. Dear Ed; You wanted some more information on the cucumber. I read aboout it in one of your letters. I cut off both ends of the cucumber and dug out the innards after heating it in the mocrowave for 30 seconds. That was much too long. It felt cold outside, but when i penetrated, it was much too hot. I let it cool down and then greased the inside with vaseline and started again. My equipment was too large and the cucumber split, but I kept on. It gives you a wonderful feeling of softness. In fact it is exactly like a vagina. The next time i bought a larger cucumber and had much more fun. Cutting the end is good because my meatus was able to come out the other end. I found, however, that thrusting was a little tiring standing up and I am resolved to find another method. I recommend it especially to men who are not to well "hung". I was obsessed with the idea, but now when i go the the grocery store, I stay away from the cucumber section. The other night my wife initiated love-making. It was fantastic. I felt my whole body explode when I ejaculated. It was so pleasurable that I had a good wank the next morning. I do not know how often that offer will be made, but i will initiate from time to time. I do not know if she knows that I wank because we do not talk about it. Istill do not feel the urge to do it every day, but when I do the exercise is extremely pleasurable. I welcome the chance to express these feelings and more and more I am beginning to see it as a normal activity. I love sex..Just thinking of it give me a tumescent bulge. I have no desire to try other women, so I will give myself pleasure when my wife is not in the mood. This is 2001 and maybe there will be a change in her attitude. I hope so because i enjoy the ride. Thank you for listening. Your letters are cathartic and can help a great number of men find comfort in the midst of all the craziness in the world. Keep up the effort. Ed: Cool! as in cool as a cucumber!... of couse I would have to use a marrow! Thanks for sending this in. so happy to hear that you and your wife are getting it on so well. So many married men are having to look elsewhere for sex and it's good to hear at least one fellow who 'has no desire to try other women'. Hi, I just read your November/December letters and have a couple of replies to questions that I read. I am 64, married over 40 years to the same first wife, started masturbating at age 14, the summer of 1950 between the eight and ninth grades after an older buddy told me about "playing with oneself," (that was 50 1/2 years ago), uncut and 5 1/2" when erect. Even though the 5 1/2" length is shorter than most, I happen to be happy that I have girth and a long foreskin. I had an orgasm and ejaculation the night of my first attempt to try out this new game my buddy told me about. I have to admit I have never stopped, having lived the "normal" life attending HS and college, getting married, building a career and raising children. This has always, however, been a solo and private thing never shared with anyone else. First, you asked if there were any over 50 that did not use a sock to collect cum. I have to admit, I never thought about catching it in anything. Since I have a long foreskin that I can pull over the end of my erect penis, I usually "caught" my load in my natural "reservoir tip" when I wanted to keep from making a mess that would have to be explained or would be messy to clean up. Secondly, you had a writer comment on his experience with Viagra. During a regular annual physical about a year and a half ago I told my doctor that I could get but was having trouble maintaining an erection to orgasm during intercourse with my wife. He prescribed 100 mg Viagra and I too experienced some of the normal side effects. I have learned that if I cut the tablets in half and take about 25 mg the side effects are gone but the rock hard erection is still long lasting. After taking the medication a few months I returned to him for a follow up appointment and told him that the erections were wonderful, hard as a rock and that I could last for 25 to 45 minutes. This sounds like the answer to every mans dream. In the year 2000 I had intercourse 42 times with my wife and masturbated an additional 63 times. But I also have been having problems letting go and reaching orgasm and ejaculation. This is the same concern your writer shared. I have shared this concern of not reaching a climax with both my regular doctor and the urologist I have also seen. On my last visit the urologist told me that this is in my head because I should be able to complete the sexual activity. Admittedly, I have a higher "success rate" masturbating than I do in intercourse, but that is because I can apply more pressure and stimulation if it is needed during a solo session! Since I have trouble cumming with her, or alone, I do not think that this is mental. I also read somewhere that if a "spot" is stimulated too long, it becomes less sensitive and it is harder to reach a climax. Could this be so? Since this drug helps give such wonderful endurance, could we become less sensitive and not be able to finish? The foreplay and early intercourse are wonderful, but after 45 minutes I want completion! Since I have not been able to reach a climax about 25% of the time, both during intercourse and masturbation, I think there might be another side effect that your other reader and I have been experiencing. Even though I have had problems reaching a "normal" climax, my wife seems to have enjoyed the extra time spent helping her reach her level of satisfaction! Now I know what I've heard for years about women claiming we work them up and are finished before meeting their needs. After 45 minutes of foreplay and intercourse she is done and wants me to leave! And I feel like I can go on forever... Like your other readers, I want to thank you for your open site and how much you have done to help us feel our activity is normal and healthy. Ed:Thank you for your submission. The Viagra information is of extreme interest to those who use it and those about to. Although it must be pointed out that it'll have varying effects with different men. Very wise to try cutting the dose in half. No point in your body getting more than necessary. I do wonder about how it may affect orgasm. It seems to me that reaching orgasm is of optimum importance but I don't believe the drug can do that. Logically I would suggest that other muscles come into play when reaching climax and just being hard isn't enough. Recently I heard on a sex show that some men have been able to reach orgasm from stimulating the prostate with a dildo. That doesn't mean sticking a huge rubber dong up your yahoo, but a small curved rubber thingy or your wife's finger ( give her a condom). By gently massaging the prostate some men reach orgasm without actually resorting to the feeling of being screwed by a large dildo. You may want to check this out with a sex therapist. Hank and Ed, Just ran across your site a couple of days ago. Good timing, since I turn 50 in a couple of months. I have been happily married for 28 years, but I still jerk off an average of 2 or 3 times per week. My dick is 6 1/4 inches hard, and is circumcised. I believe I was around 11 years of age when I first jerked off. I remember the occasion vividly, as I thought I was going to pee (I had no idea what cum was at the time). I just knew that playing with my penis felt great and that something was about to erupt (as it eventually did). Needless to say, this practice immediately became a regular pasttime. I usually jerk off (in the shower or while sitting on the toilet) without lubrication, but at times have used lubricated condoms. I must say that the sensation is fantastic - a tight fist around a slippery, wet sheath! I found another way to jerk off a few months ago. I sometimes spend time in the evening in my spa, to relax in the hot, bubbly water. I usually do this nude, since it is after dark and we have a high fence around our backyard pool and spa. At times, I am in the spa without my wife. One one such occasion this past summer, I accidentally discovered the wonderful sensation of having the hot jets of water pulsate against my penis. Although I ended up jerking off with my right (or was it left?) hand, the hard-on (rock hard, I might add) itself came from the stimulation of the water. Let me add that I am bi-sexual, although my level of activity is very limited - safety first is my motto! I have had three jerk off buddies in the past 5 years, two of them still active. For the record, they all jerk off regularly, with or without my assistance. All three are circumcised and all are in the 7" - 8" range (the 8 incher is quite a site to behold). One is 45 years old, while the other two are in their mid 60s. All three are married with children and two have grandchildren. Nice to know that I am not the only married, older man who enjoys a good pull on the pecker. I plan to join the pay portion of your site soon. I noticed tonight that you updated your e-mail section and mentioned that some new sign-up options will be announced in a couple of weeks. I will wait until you announce them and then decide which way to subscribe. Keep up the good work. Happy New Year! BT Ed: good to hear from you. Its great to know that more and more men are jerking together. I hope more and more wives are diddling together also. It's good to have friends and especially sexual ones. Imagine a world where Gore and Bush and Jesse and Arafat and the Jewish leaders and all the other 'leaders' of the world had jerk off parties whenever they met??????? World peace could become a reality over night! Ed and Hank, I meant to mention in my earlier message that I have Peyronie's Disease (aka bent dick disease). I mention this since it generally does not show up in most men who have it until they are middle-aged or older. In my case, it showed up almost 20 years ago. The first year I had it was hell, to say the least. Very painful and difficult to have an erection, and out of the question to try to have sex with my wife. My doctor prescribed vitamin E, which I have taken daily ever since. Gradually, the situation improved, and now only a very close inspection would reveal that I have the problem at all. Erections are very hard, with only a slight bend to the left. If any of your other readers out there have this problem, especially if it has recently shown up, I want to encourage them not be get down - the situation can definitely improve. B T Ed: Interesting, I never know that it was painful. I've seen a few pix of bent peckers and thought they looked okay. never thought of it as painful. I had a school chum whose pecker curved like a banana and we all thought it looked cool. I would like to hear from any other readers about this (why is it called Peyronie's Disease? and is it a disease?) Any one whose also has this please write us. Here are the only two replies we got from a list of 15 J/O clubs that we wrote to last month. Hi Hank and Ed, Thanks for your message. You will find details of John's JO Club at the url below. We meet regularly once a month and usually get about a dozen horny guys turning up. We are in a relatively small population area of Australia so I guess the numbers are pretty representative. You will note that we allow more than just wanking at our group meetings. Anyway, please make use of our material as you think fit. Cheers, John googong@interact.net.au HI Hank, Our webpage is http://www.geocities.com/clevelandjacks/ For recorded info call our 24 hour info line at: 216-635-2850 Meeting Location: Flex 1293 W 9th Street Cleveland, OH 216-696-0595 Free ONETIME coupon for Flex can be downloaded here BR> What is our club about? Masturbation,pure and simple. No oral, no anal. If you want to do more, there are many other places at Flex to engage in more. About 12-18 men attend the Wednesday meetings. We meet in the lobby of Flex at the time shown above. You are informed where in Flex the meeting will occur. We meet promptly, please allow time to change into your towel. At the meeting, towels are dropped, and most guys start off by stroking their own meat. Soon, guys join up into groups of 2, 4 or more. If you wish you can play alone or lend a hand. 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