Many men writing to us are normal men - (i.e.those who have at one time or another been with either sex). Our fantasies in our heads are like the fantasies in a woman's head - little to do with reality. But lots of men are opportunists and can be aroused in seconds, whip it out, stick it somewhere naughty and cum. Wipe it on something, put it away and rejoin everyday life within a few minutes AND forget it happened until a few hours later when we may want to do it again AND equally as brief.

Our society has created a dangerous sea of rules about 'sexual conduct'. That is basically saying to men. EVERYTHING you do sexually is wrong unless its with a legally married, same age/same race wife and your relationship with her is idylic and you make sure there is a second reliable adult in the room whenever you wish to hug your daughter or grandchild!

Consequently we are 'throwing in the glove' in ever-increasing numbers! We are dropping out and turning on to a legally safer, less demanding, world of adult homosexuality.

Help us chill-out gals and we can maybe come back to where most men would have stayed had their females didn't try to be the ONLY sexual outlet. After the honeymoon period and especially as ageing becomes noticeable a man may like to wank thinking about all kinds of sexual encounters and many of them are not about her! AND THIS IS THE NORM! And as time wears on as he claims impotency (when really he still wanks often), just to avoid maintaining a role he may never have enjoyed much. As couples get older they seem to hold each other responsible for getting older - watching tummies bulge and teeth fall out and each being hung up over what they are supposed look like to appeal to their sexmate.

Maybe if a man did'nt feel like he has to BE a Charles Bronson and a gal did'nt feel that she HAD to be a luscious looking chick to turn him on --- hey who knows? Fashion is the culprit. We are beguiled by fashion and the perfect body and must all pretend we like 'correct sex'. When really - instinctively - all we want to do is; lick, kiss, suck, cuddle and fuck, every living thing that exists. (at least once anyways!).

I imagine that any normal woman is as much into sex as men but oh so differently it seems - and its the lenght of time that is the big difference. Once a man has shot his load, he has absolutely NO interest in whatever he just fucked; wife, girlfriend, dog, melon or his hand. It's over now so get on with basic survival, getting food, shelter, protection of home and family or having a beer. A few hours later he needs another fuck (with anything) --- bingo! fuck over --- get on with the basic survival bit again. It's a Watch-Your-Back feeling that makes men appear to be hurried.