Viagra commentary(Written by Railton)Part One - Mans Attitude To Sex and Reaction To Impotence Written by Railton General Background It is always difficult to express emotional feelings especially when they have been worked on by up bringing and social constraints. The view of the physical world is so much easier. For subjects which are associated with keeping the species going, things become much more complicated because so many subliminal forces or feelings are brought to bear upon us. In the context of sexual feelings our own views and the facts become almost inextricably bound together causing the picture sometimes to be distorted. As for the use of sexual words, I will use the latin versions mainly because they are more accurate. Common names can be open to several meanings. I will explain why if they are used but please let me know if you have any pet names you would prefer. In any difficult problems where social imprint and technology are involved I always think back or look at the picture as it would have been in "stone age" times. It is surprising how this simpler view of a very hard life easily clears the mists of misunderstanding away. In ones life a multi faceted picture of this type is not easy to see. It is almost like having several loose leaf folders which are thrown in the air then the pages collected together and hoping the same picture will still be present! In many ways I have approached this little commentary in a back to front fashion, working with what is possible through to what may be possible together with some of the reasons. Also, hopefully, I will have been able to untangle some of the related problems. The notes come together from previous letters, reading articles conversations and experience, some of which are directly related whilst others only indirectly and have been abridged or edited. If anything is unclear please ask for details or clarification if ambiguous. In the commentary many aspects around the male ejaculation have been mentioned but I have not described the action of ejaculation itself. Please ask if you want me to do this. Nor have I entered my own personal feelings which I can add later if you wish. A Distinguishing Feature of The Human Race Many years ago there used to be asked questions about the size of bottoms. It was really quite simple and innocent just about satisfactory to mention them in conversations, maybe some women felt uncomfortable about them. However, to put things in context, think of the picture of the earth as would be seen by "little green men" in a space ship. Full of green plants, some mammals with fury coats and a strange animal without hair, naked. Upon close examination and measurement this animal also had a further distinguishing feature, the ratio of buttocks to body size is very high. So the "little green men" named the creature Bare Bottoms as they had not heard of homo sapiens! We as people hardly ever think of our selves in this light. The Growth of The Bottom and its Place in The Human Psyche Monkeys and primates have no easily discernable bottom mainly because they still make good use of their arms for locomotion. We are primates and this is how we started out. The story of how our eyes and brains grew is quite well known now, along with this came the need to see further and move faster. The more upright posture causes the whole body weight to be continually re balanced over each leg necessitating the need for more powerful muscles hence the continual growth in bottom size. Things would have stopped here but for the increase in mobility and ability to be more successful at hunting. The extra meat and hence energy allowed the head/ brain to continue to grow. This extra size then caused problems in getting the offspring out of the birth canal. Nature solved the problem by allowing the position of female legs to be further apart on the pelvis. The position eventually became two inches further apart, the penalty was the greater muscle power needed to re balance when walking. Even the geometric trick of allowing the legs to bend inwards did not solve the problem and this is the current state of things. The picture of female thighs well apart whilst the knees can touch is now well established. It is interesting to note the gene carrying this leg shape also affects the shape to some extent of the non-locomotion legs - the arms. The elbows being much closer together than the male counterpart when stretched out and hands clasped. The story so far does not answer all the questions. The female bottom structure is not driven by mechanical requirements alone. Even after taking into account fat and tissue storage designed to help nourish the off spring in difficult times the size is more than ample. Another factor comes into play. This is more recent in geological time and has a "social" component. The agreed explanation with current knowledge is as follows. At earlier times female primates and monkeys carried their young hanging on to the mothers back. One year old off spring were just about self sufficient when the new off spring arrived a year later. This system works well except for primates like our selves where the enlarging heads slows down body growth rates and delays onset of self sufficiency. It is interesting that for modern humans babies they would be better kept in the womb for a further two to two and a half years to mature further. However such older infants could not be able to be born in the normal way. If it is said at this time family bonds formed in early times and the primeval hunter looked after survival of the group, this gives too modern a view and a wrong one. Certainly male and female scavenged for meat but as off spring became heavier and clung to the mothers back longer not to mention the latest arrival, female activity changed and slowed. The female gently moves to looking after the "young" eventually "staying at home with the family" whilst the male would widely range but remember to return with sustenance. At this point two further developments were taking place. The first, which completes the bottom story, the second, the very successful human expansion in numbers. The people at this period, in general lived in great hardship, matured at about 10/12years but died between 25 and 30years. Maybe full blown tribes as we know them were not common, only small bands inhabited great spaces of their own. This made protection important but difficult, sleeping arrangements being in tight groups. Mammals mate by mounting from behind and there is no reason to believe the pre humans did differently. In annual mating, when the female is "on heat" sexual signals are sent by disposition of the bottom and swelling of the vulval lips. The triggers work well on the male. However in the developing pre humans the male was needed to be present all the time or very regularly all year round. Whilst away he needed to remember what he had left behind or what he was going to return to and this needed to work well repeatedly over a long period. The movement away from annual mating to continuous fertility and mating altered the sex drive. The strong sexual drive, which had evolved in the male became the central motivation/signal for him to return. With the larger female bottoms and possibly memories of the primeval past for mounting from behind initiated the required activity. Some say because of the male capacity for being easy going he needed a large bottom to make sure he knew what was going on and could hit the required target; there there appears to be some psychological truth in this. That is the end of the bottom story as it was more or less originally put together. The second strand for the vast human expansion in numbers is explained thus. In groups where a couple, male and female were in close association and with very frequent or daily mounting the vagina would always contain sperm. The egg at ovulation would successfully move into the best fertile environment. The almost daily mounting equates with the best sperm being produced which is every 36hours. Once inside the vagina they then have a further three days before dying. This is the story of how the male came to perform his duties regularly. In contrast, other mammals such as stallions and bulls, when sexually stimulated, produce the penis from within its under sheath but it only becomes fully erect and hard enough to penetrate after he has covered the females back. In these cases sperm starts to flow, as a continuous stream, then the penis with forward movement penetrates, only for a few seconds then withdrawal takes place, much of the sperm being lost as the flow continuous on to the ground. The animal actions most likely are mechanical and there are few indications of ejaculation as known in human terms where the sperm is shot forward in distinct pulses. Masculine Sexuality In both men and women the instinct to procreate is strong, no, much stronger. Massive amounts of time and energy (and in this age, money) are given away to ensure the survival of the off spring. For the male the instinct is the creative act. It pervades his life and is all enveloping, he regularly thinks (several minutes) of sex and women or of women and sex, only very strong distractions (one or two hours at the most) are ever effective. Women are seen as possible mates, then as a person. The man will see an image of a woman (attractive or beautiful) and then in a fleeting moment before he remembers he is in civilised society his instinct reminds him of erection, penetration and ejaculation, then it is gone. A man has a very fond relationship with his penis but is not in total control. The penis really does have a mind of its own, becoming erect or soft against the owners wishes when ever it feels like it and no permission asked. After sexual development in young boys of 12 to 15 years, the full vigour of sexual activity is attained, the memory of which never really fades. The most active period is late teens to 25 years and with a feeling of consolidation and security by 35 years. Sexual activity is expressed by having sexual climaxes that is orgasm with the ejaculation of semen usually called sperm. The frequency will be from two per day to one ever other day, stimulation being by vaginal penetration or hand or a mixture of both. The most favoured time is in the early morning when most men awake with a convenient erection. Only tiredness will delay the event until later in the day. Faced with a soft penis a man will draw the foreskin back a few times or gently rub the head of the penis to achieve erection in three to eight seconds. The friction and movement on the penis are considered the height of delight and consequently not a lot of time passes before ejaculation takes place. These feelings before ejaculation have great power and an inclination to slow down is not easily done, there is an almost desperate need to bring about the climax. Once the nerve impulses trigger the muscles, the point of inevitability is reached and the rest of the process is a reflex action. The sperm can be felt moving along the tubes and when the first drop shoots out popularly called the vinegar stroke, the whole organ, becomes incredibly sensitive and real pain is felt. See Insert A. Once the heady days of youth have passed and the urge to ejaculate too quickly has been tamed to some extent, some small control over the penis may have been achieved. There is great reward and delight in having the erect penis held in the vagina for as long as possible before the inevitable ejaculation takes place. Two modes of attempted control have been tried over the ages. The first, during vaginal containment a feeling of approaching ejaculation, contrary to popular myth is best put off by pushing forward and holding still. The inclination and action of pulling out only makes matters worse as the friction on the corona under the head of the penis is overwhelming stimulating and the unwanted ejaculation takes place. The second and probably more effective way of slowing the need to ejaculate can be carried out mainly during masturbatory stroking of the penis. Obviously if the point of inevitability has not been reached then one just stops holding, stopping movement is not so effective because there are still sensations from touching. However, by far the best method of control is to give the penis, under. the glans on the frenulum, a firm squeeze between index finger and thumb. This method is often advised for the control of pre mature ejaculation. It is pointed out, even after prolonged trying over many years, the penis cannot always be controlled. It does not become soft and the soft penis does not produce sperm by ejaculation although a drop sometimes called the pearl may appear. Previously reported instances of man being able to produce sperm by thought alone or by stroking a soft penis (quoted one in two thousand) have upon further investigation been shown to have occurred after several hours of stimulation had taken place but with a pause. See Insert B Whilst manipulation of the soft penis is not unpleasant it does not offer anything but the smallest fraction of the pleasure offered when the penis is hard. As stated previously stroking the soft penis should bring about erection in seconds. This degree of firmness is then suitable for vaginal thrusting, hand stroking and all other variations of sex play with their associated fun experiences. However, at the point of inevitability the valves in the blood supply to the penis close very tightly and this causes the member to become "rock hard" in reality. In this situation it cannot be bent without very serious damage and on the contrary could cause very much damage itself. In this highly aroused state the rock hard penis has its internal urethral tube constricted so that in an open ended situation, when the sperm leaves the tip of the penis it can travel or shoot anything from one to four feet. See Insert C Insert A Factors Slowing Down The Male Pursuit of Sex Out of all the biological requirements to keep life going, food is the easiest to for go then water but in men a sexual urge is still present even in the most fraught of situations: probably the compulsion to pass on genes before death takes over. A man will, when well into the copulatory mode be able to take quite an amount of punishment and injury before he is compelled to pull out. Just before the point of inevitability then the sperm starts to move, a condition akin to semi paralysis or being transfixed will take over and he will be incapable of pulling out. Over the ages women have been able to detect this and try and use it as a method of mildly efficient birth control. This works well for men who are dry up until the point of ejaculation but for those who produce some leakage of sperm before hand, totally non effective. Just as many men awake with an erection there are so many case histories also of men producing an erection prior to death. Some certainly have the erection hours after death, presumably because all the valves are locked in place, closed. Insert B Post Orgasmic Phase In the man the presence of his sex hormone testosterone makes him, as is well known, aggressive and keen on the pursuit of sex. One of the dramatic changes observable in him is his remarkably quick erections and readiness for sex. Equally dramatic but not a popular topic for conversations is "la petite mort" literally the little death. Here he basks in post orgasmic pleasure, the penis becomes flaccid, aggression is gone, even light action drains away. In this mode he may question the reason why he is with the partner he is with or reinforce all his gentlest thoughts and love for them. With this inner exhaustion, mental fulfilment or drone like disposition he may be accused of not paying enough attention but it is also a mode a lot of women like. He is full and happy. Insert C Multi Orgasmic Man Man has endeavoured to more fully enjoy his sexual practices and delay the inevitable climax and ejaculation of sperm. Several methods have been used; the squeeze technique (used initially to avoid premature ejaculation), slowing sown, stopping touching, using leather straps or even reciting mathematical tables but by far the best is training the internal muscles. It is not easy and also takes a great deal of willpower to over come some of the urges. (Oddly enough the muscles are the same in both men and women and they are the ones to stop in mid flow when having a "wee". The exercise is just to flex or tighten them, even something useful to do so when driving or just waiting.) See footnote It works by flexing the muscle three times when approaching the point of ejaculatory inevitability. The nerve signals die down and stimulation can continue; but the forces will eventually overtake him and climax occurs. The phenomenon of female multiple orgasm is so well documented as to need no further comment. On the other hand however, male multiple orgasm, has been worked out in the West but now appears to have been practiced in the East for millennia, just needs more exercise and concentration. Simply, the three muscle flexes are carried out continuously but more slowly and the thrusts or finger strokes slowed to correspond. When the first movement of sperm is felt all that is needed is a few more strong but slower flexes and the multiple orgasm is under way. To all intents and purposes every thing is functioning, just the sperm valves are locked closed. This can be done for up to 50 minutes but ejaculatory expulsion of sperm does not take place. The desire to orgasm will eventually come to the fore so several minutes of relaxation will allow the penis to become flaccid and the nerves "reset" themselves. The man can then return to daily life with his sperm intact for activity later or start again with an erection and follow through to orgasm. The force of ejaculation will however be reduced because of the recent locked muscular activity. (This sperm should not be used for conception as the enzymes acting on it will have reduced its gel like characteristics and become more fluid.) Of more recent years many stories have been reported the popularity of women enjoying orgasming onto an erect rock hard penis rather than a vibrating dildo or other firm insertion. This could be related to the increase of the tantric movement and numbers of men being able to be effectively multi orgasmic. Stable relationships would be required so that the extra silky feeling of the penis was not lost by the use of condoms. Footnote Commonality of Masculine and Feminine Sexual Reactions Many research trials have been carried out to measure electrical activity by means of EEG and ECG during sexual stimulation and orgasm in both men and women. Surprisingly the results show little if any difference in the explosive electrical intensity for both sexes. The only variation, which is probably well known anyway, is the time taken to reach orgasm, quickly and explosively for the men and much more slowly with the attendant inner warmth for the women. The naked sensitivity of the glans can still take some rough treatment in the man whilst hooded insensitivity of the clitoris still has to be treated gently in the woman. ____________________________________________________ Part Two - Should Viagra and Similar Drugs be Prescribed Under the National Health Service Introduction In the initial stages of the project which eventually settled on the compound, common chemical name sildenafil now with the trade name Viagra, Pfizer were looking for a treatment of heart problems, mainly one to increase the blood supply to the heart muscle. During the clinical trials, one of the side effects noted was an effect on penile erections. They were either more frequent or of better quality. It must be assumed there was an increased blood supply to the penile area, similar to that of the heart muscle, allowing the muscles controlling the erectile function to be more effective. At that time, women were not includes in the trials presumably because men are supposed to be more susceptible to heart problems and of course can only have erectile dysfunction. Unofficial Use of Viagra by Women Although women were not included in the initial trials, the use of Viagra seems to have spread tothe female population. It is not known yet whether any real risks are known and whether these will be out weighed by the claimed benefits. Only when more recently initiated trials are completed will the facts become clear. The use seems to divide into two groups:- i. Post Menopausal. Dryness and lack of lubrication in post menopausal women can at best be described as a nuisance and most probably remedied be topical application of any of the many easily available products. The use of such a powerful invasive drug as Viagra seems excessive unless there are undertones of accompanying better feelings of well being and contentment. ii. Clitoral Effect. The similarity between the clitoris and the penis are well known and if Viagra enhances penile sensitivity it is not unreasonable to assume the clitoris is affected in a very similar way. Not only will the area be generally more sensitive and responsive but the deadening effects of a thick clitoral hood could be negated; no, much reduced. There are two widely different groups which seek these benefits. a. Non orgasmic women and those who have great difficulty report successful use of Viagra, whether it is just physiological or whether there is a psychological lift does not seem to be mentioned. b. A smaller group of wilder and more liberated women report enhanced sexual feeling and more violent orgasms caused by the use of Viagra although they do add the nature of the orgasm is different to a "normal" one. There were hints they experienced nipple sensitivity but it is not known how much sensitivity existed originally before the use of Viagra. Use of Viagra by Men i Social Use. In cases where sex is encountered in a social way the demand for enhancement of feelings is directed towards the different abilities or actions of sexual expression rather than towards medically correcting a failing function. The desire to experiment is forever present in the younger male, they will try to last longer or ejaculate further sometimes helped by drugs, poppers (amyl nitrite) or cocaine. However these people are in a minority and for convenience be grouped together with swingers (now called social sex), sado/masochists, cross dressers and homosexuals etc. They will very easily obtain Viagra eg. from the internet and have ample resources to pay for its illicit use. ii Medical Use. The group who will benefit most are men who are well advanced in years although a very small group of all ages with this type of sexual dysfunction will exist. In a very small number of cases where conception needs to take place there is a good chance a Viagra induced erection will result in the ejaculation of sperm. The volume of sperm (8 to 10 ml) from younger men is greater than their seniors produce (4 to 8 ml). There are some techniques where the prostate gland can be massaged via inserts in the bottom, to produce small amounts of sperm and in the clinical situation this may be used to bring about conception. However there is no felling of pleasure as no pulsing ejaculation takes place and men in general, unlike homosexuals, do not like objects inserted into their bottoms. The need to attain penetrative sexual intercourse has always existed even where the penis remains flaccid and many methods have been used to combat this difficulty. Some are downright dangerous whilst others such as implants, injections or suppositories have been used with a degree of success but are difficult and expensive in medical time and unpleasant for the recipient. To attain insertion of the penis into the vagina a method for home use is to use a vacuum pump or just squeeze blood into the penis then fix a rubber ring or leather strap (arab strap) as a ligature to maintain the erection. It is awkward and a little embarrassing even for the less shy older person and there is a greater danger of bruising from knocking or bending. For genuine cases of difficulty, once inside, the softness of the vagina wall is not enough to prolong or help the somewhat artificial erection to be maintained and certainly hand stroking will be of little use. Mans Desire and Feeling of Well Being Following on from what was said in Part One the penis needs to be erect to receive full stimulative sensations, whether by vagina or hand, before ejaculation can take place. The great problem is, it is not just another bodily function but one which is very special and one of enormous psychological and emotional content. Not only does a light stroking of the glans on the erect penis make the whole body twitch, the feelings near to orgasm truly cause the whole thought process to be carried away. The totality at orgasm is a body held in a reflex action, crushing spasms as the sperm is expelled, and not to put too fine a point on it, great feelings of bliss. With a partner, a blending and complete oneness exists. Let us not forget these wonderful things and Viagra can play its part. It cannot artificially generate an erotic situation but can allow a natural one to succeed. In the right ambience the external stimuli of pictures, videos or a lover are needed to achieve the right result. Half the recommended dose is a waste of money as it does not work. Viagra in use i. The first group, if it can be called that, are those men who have no interest in sex. For what ever reason, sickness or loss of desire; married or single they have no interest in Viagra and would not want to take it anyway. ii. The group who use Viagra report in several ways but it is best collected together under two headings, mens and womens observations. a. Men Observations. With the exception of those men who have poor results, then Viagra is not suitable for them. The almost over whelming majority claim splendid results. Even when some degrees of exaggeration are removed it is more than just successful. They almost universally comment on a different feeling of ejaculation when compared with what they think they remember from their youth. Further they add the frequency of desire for ejaculations does not change but its attainment does. Lower sperm volumes are unchanged and in line with the reductions of advancing years. b Womens Observations. The women, who are mainly after the menopause, come under two broad descriptions. Firstly those who have much decreased or lost interest in sex. It is unfortunate for these women who are probably being pursued by husbands with erections (colloquially - "horny" husbands). However, some will submit for the sake of the marriage. This is a drawback to be remembered. With other women resistance will probably not allow the Viagra to trigger a husband anyway. New friendships of the "boy/girlfriend variety obviously have to evolve but seem to be most successful. The second group of post menopausal women have the opposite description, they are more active with increased libido and sexual desire. In some of these cases a flaccid penis is of no use, even Viagra induced erections may only just be enough to keep the couple together. Previously cunnilingus was all that was available to these couples provided they liked it and although it is spectacularly delightful, it is not overwhelmingly acceptable to everyone. Now of course for the Viagra user is a very useful augmentation to the main event of sexual intercourse. In this context it probably is a valuable aid to female orgasm and a powerful trigger for the Viagra user. A small number of tragic events have happened to these active and possibly less shy women who did not mind reporting it, mainly in the US. The husband has had a heart attack whilst inside his wife and she has had to try and push him off whilst the erection was still maintained inside her. The need for good medical advice is thus demonstrated. Sources of Viagra i. Private Sources. Ethically and morally this is generally accepted as satisfactory as the drug has under gone its medical trials. The private availability through clinics or over the internet already exist, but medical check ups are essential. ii. Within the NHS. Impotence has been a problem "forever" and is more or less fully understood. Diagnosis at a basic level is quite straight forward, a stroked penis soon becomes erect and tricksters would not want the previous painful treatments. It has also been long known, many of the causes have a psychological basis and the many psychiatric clinics have the necessary expertise. The problem, reduced to its most basic is, a man cannot ejaculate without having an erection and he needs those ejaculations for a rewarding fulfilled life. Without this sexual achievement a host of psychological and some physiological problems ensue. In the sphere of mental health difficulties, being washed out and with a loss of interest in life, was an almost universal claim followed by depression and worse a number of suicides. The other spin off is the onset of being a difficult character, turning to drink, family rows and broken homes. Viewed in a different light, it seems a large proportion (possibly up to 50%) of NHS patients suffer from some type of mental disorder and any treatment to relieve it should be welcomed. Some of the problems will be sexual in origin but because they are not erectile dysfunction they seem to be more acceptable. Discussion A number of the many sexual problems in both men and women are dealt with by the NHS whether by psychiatry or administration of drugs. Just because correction of the affliction allows a penis to become erect and ejaculate with accompanying real pleasure does not make it a special case. Many treatments allow or facilitate the act of sexual intercourse, it is rarely on display so therefore is not frequently thought about. When the NHS was set up it was to be universal ie. available to all, UK or foreign, with everything free of charge. No questions of suitability were asked. Vast amounts of money was lost on totally unnecessary consultations, treatments and appliances. It is only of recent years that some strands of common sense have prevailed and some charges have been introduced. Anyone with a malfunctions has been treated, whether spectacles, lost limbs or teeth etc. Even sexual dysfunction in its many forms has been treated. There are many stories of whisky, holidays and trips being prescribed, some will be untrue, some not and others out of date. In a slightly more serious vein there is help available for many social injuries and those from sports and holidays etc. To a lesser extent there is limb and face reconstruction and some degree of face lifting and limb shortening. I will bet we do not know the extent of what else goes on! The basic tenets of the NHS still appear to be to treat to allow for a full life, rather than just to avoid death or deformity. Since Victorian times we have seen a sexual awakening, to the extent that conversation about nakedness, intercourse and orgasm is quite acceptable. Even demonstrations of these activities are equally acceptable and enjoyable. The Viagra/sexual enjoyment question is a hang over from the Victorian view which says it is wrong to enjoy sex. We must not be allowed to pursue it and women must be protected from it*. I wonder if this now is just the view of the mob and the tabloid press. Public images of the penis are very limited and then only when flaccid and fleetingly appearing on television or more easily in books. The erection is not seen whether or not covered in shining vaginal lubrication. This threatening image still lurks in the dark shadows of many minds. The odd ejaculating penis is only seen in pornographic films but even then never in close up to minimise the fear factor again. There will also be some strands of the womens liberation movement which is anti-phallic, and hoping to control men with any excuse. The division of effort within the NHS is not an issue but womens services and gynaecological services have a high spend even though women are claimed to be stronger and live longer. The NHS sets out to be as helpful as possible and has to bear much unnecessary criticism. At the present time it has available some super modern technology which can give the consumers unnaturally high expectations. Bound in with all this is the evolution from the older style cure regime to the prevention of illness and improved life style scenario. * Even today women with equal standing and some equal opportunities still need to be protected from exploitation and where necessary from physical harm. Conclusion At the onset of this commentary I was inclined to the view of greatly restricted use of Viagra and much curtailed financial help. However my view has progressed to the point there I believe it should be available on demand within its medical criteria. The reasons are there will be vast savings from the improvements in mens health. There are so many other services, some of a similar nature that are available it would be unreasonable to exclude the use of Viagra. The old have not lost a real interest in life, although sometimes slow they will often comment they still have a twenty something year old trapped inside them. The final sentence is not to forget mans fulfilment in life and his expression of sexuality. To deny him the bounty of feeling enjoyed with a beloved whilst in the embrace of beauty from legs, tummy, breast and glance of eye would surely be one of the worlds greatest sadnesses. The delight felt my men in a sexual situation is described briefly in the conclusion. This additional written text conveys only the slightest shadow, whilst better words arranged in the heart of a lover could feebly attempt to paint the true glowing picture of reality. The feeling of softness whilst between a womans legs is gentle, warm and silky. Not only that but the degree of spread enhances the driving welcome felt. The pressure of a curving tummy, smooth and soft as it reached and retreats in time with the ladies pelvic rocking demand, is a centre of beauty. Sweetly gazing on her orbs of fascinating beauty a mans eyes are filled with love and tenderness. Her breasts captivate him, control him, make his eyes cry with desire as he espies her taught erect nipples jabbing at him. They sit upon their fields of bursting whiteness transfixing him as he draws her nearer to him. Even the brush of the cheek is magical, conquers all time and space. So much wonder, a deep searing ecstasy as her legs rise and their lushness entwine him around his waist. What of all this, mere crumbs in the shadows when he is not in her, bound to her, magnificent in his special salute to her, needing her. Addendum To The Conclusion The paragraph below was to have been the final comment in the conclusion. However I then thought the description did not do the subject justice so just an abbreviated version was given. A mans enjoyment of woman kind and sexuality really needs a very much longer description and then they are only words trying to illustrate emotional feelings. The delight felt my men in a sexual situation is described briefly in the conclusion. My additional written text poorly conveys only the slightest glimmer of light. Better words arranged by the heart of a lover can only feebly attempt to paint the true glowing picture of reality. The feeling of softness whilst between a womans legs is gentle, warm and silky. Not only that but the degree of spread enhances the driving welcome felt. The pressure of a curving tummy, smooth and soft as it reached and retreats in time with the ladies pelvic rocking demand, is a centre of beauty. Sweetly gazing on her orbs of fascinating beauty a mans eyes are filled with love and tenderness. Her breasts captivate him, control him, make his eyes cry with desire as he espies her taught erect nipples jabbing at him. They sit upon their fields of bursting whiteness transfixing him as he draws her nearer to him. Even the brush of the cheek is magical, conquers all time and space. So much wonder, a deep searing ecstasy as her legs rise and their lushness entwine him around his waist. What of all this, mere crumbs in the shadows when he is not in her, bound to her, magnificent in his special salute to her, needing her. Extra Views My own private views about NHS terms of reference and funding would exclude some spheres of influence. Maternity services and support, which are not illnesses would be a separate department where the consumer would make their own provisions. A national service safety net could be available but with the main input being from ones own personal scheme such as is used for motor insurance. Another case is that of old age. Here family, friends and the whole population seem to have taken leave of their senses and are looking for magical cures. What ever people dream of, the grim reaper will still come to upset peoples desires. Where is a sense of realism? The unpalatable fact is something like 90% of spend on the old takes place in the last 9 months of life and the majority of that in the last six months. This is an obvious nonsense, it is only social mood which does not allow a rational solution to the problem. Here we veer off into all the different degrees of euthanasia and this is for discussion later. The last comment for the moment relating to public spending, possibly the most serious and certainly the saddest is the loss or waste of approximately 50% of resources in education. The prime objective should be to give the population a good education which should then results in a richer and more fulfilled life. Value for money and or savings although important are secondary to this main objective. My thoughts after writing the commentary When I started I felt it would be easy to write and much shorter. In the end it came out alright with a bit of effort. I have grown up with many of the sexual feelings and because they have always been there they are just taken for granted and not seen in the front of the mind as important subjects. It certainly underlines the fact that writing things down on paper is about the best way of producing a clear picture. I started from a neutral stance of "if people want a benefit it is up to them to fund it". Once the magnitude of male drive and desire became clear the importance of its loss also became clearer. Then when viewed against other social factors, the care of male characteristics can be seen as central, not only to his existence but also to that of society in general. In the limited area of the accountant, effort and resource spent on some of mens problems, more than pays for itself with the spin off to many other parts of society. It is often said and I have also often said, sex is central to a mans life, but it is usually a comment without deep thought. The commentary has forced me to look at some of the reality and that has been very useful. I will bet I am rather on the old fashioned side and am only catching up with modern ways. It had been an interesting exercise and because of the highly sexual nature of the contents it has made me quite firm at times. However I do so like quality and refinement. I do not want to be involved with the common masses and their rough attitude to sex which I believe should be treated as a gentle philosophy as well as one of passion. In the main text I mentioned the penis becoming extra hard in its erection at the point just before ejaculation takes place. Until now I had not realised the reason for this but in a situation where the penis is not functioning too well and is becoming softer or its owner is loosing interest, that bit of extra hardness could lead to deeper penetration and consequent better delivery of sperm onto the cervix. It is just possible the slight increase in pressure from the vaginal wall will ensure the ejaculation does take place. In a way Viagra will aid the persistence of hardness and delivery of the best amount of sperm onto the cervix. In the smaller percentages of cases where conception is required this is a benefit. In the various articles I have read the continuing complaint from many women is the short time men take to ejaculate, in many cases on average one and a half minutes. The figure quoted for younger women is 7.5minutes. Again any slowing down due to Viagra to bridge this gap is to be applauded. In the text orgasm and ejaculation are often mentioned and sometimes are interchangeable which is not really the case. Orgasm which should be for the whole climax now tends to be used for the emotional feelings. Ejaculation on the other hand is what it says it is, the expulsion of sperm. None of my descriptions are full of detail, would you like a full and clear description of the events? It would only just take a little more time. One point I have just thought about concerns colloquial meanings of words. Earlier I mentioned groups, in the 1960s, previously called "swingers" where couples were involved in group sex. The name evolved to "social" sex but now I believe the favoured description is "recreational" sex. So you can see the possible difficulties of using recreational sex in the wrong context. |